Cultural Norms and the Bible

The other day, while still in recovery from a youth lock-in, I wore a hat to church. The reasons were pretty obvious: I was tired, didn't have time to shower, and certainly didn't have time to fix my oily hair...it also covered the bald spot that's starting to appear on the top of my head but that was just lagniappe:) So, after teaching the youth, I headed down to the Main Sanctuary for service. Our youth section is in the front center so it was no surprise that I was sitting right on the front row - with my hat on. To be honest, I forgot until about half way through the service but then I started to wonder what the reaction would be. Would I be shunned? Would the presence of God leave our worship? Would the Spirit be grieved? Or would no one really notice? I knew that women typically wear hats in buildings and through services with no adverse affects but I had never experienced it personally.

Let me digress for a moment to say that this is simply my opinion to generate some healthy discussion. It must be remembered that this is not an essential of the faith and, therefore, should not be treated as such.

Now, back to the issue...

Throughout history there has been a tendency to mix a cultural norm with a Biblical standard. I believe this to be dangerous in that it often breeds rebellion and ultimately misrepresents our God. This is not to say cultural norms are negative in-and-of-themselves. Many are great. The issue arises when religion gets tacked on when there is truly no biblical warrant to do so, i.e. when someone teaches that alcohol is evil. This generation of young people seems to have a natural bent towards healthy skepticism. No longer is it good enough to say "because I told you so." This generation consistently asks the question, "Why?". And sadly, too often, they find no real substance in the answers given. This, I believe, proves to be a hindrance to the faith of many.


So to the point: I believe wearing hats is not a Scriptural issue. I'm sure few would disagree with this position but it does need to be stated. Those who attempt to use Scripture will have a difficult time (if you don't believe me just read 1 Corinthians 11!).


By the way, do you know where the custom of taking off your hat off came from? According to the Dictionary of Phrase and Fable by E. Cobham Brewer, the custom of taking off a hat is "A relic of the ancient custom of taking off the helmet when no danger is nigh. A man takes off his hat to show that he dares stand unarmed in your presence." Obviously, there has been some pretty substantial changes in the world since that time which begs the question: when does a practically useful custom of one generation cease to be mandatory in another? In other words, how far should cultural norms that are not rooted in any way in the Scripture be pressed in a different cultural context? Is there ever a time for non-biblical customs to be questioned, discussed, and ultimately refined?


Another issue can be stated like this: If God is not the authority in dealing with cultural norms, who is? And who dictates when one stays and when one goes? Doesn't it just melt into relativity - my opinion or yours? Consider, for example, women wearing pants. There was a time when that was completely taboo - especially in church! Or what about the days of suits only? Or hymns? Did you know they were an outrage when Luther began putting his beautiful words to bar tunes of the day? Or what about praise and worship songs? They were quite the stumbling block in their early days? Basically, it seems to me that we tend to enjoy the benefits of cultural norms laid to rest while refusing to let the next generation do the same. It really is a difficult issue in which to remain consistent. Women wear pants, we all sing hymns, sing praise songs, dress "down" to church, etc. In my opinion, it seems logical and consistent that only those who deny the cultural changes of the past have a leg to stand on in going against non-biblical cultural changes today.


But does this give us the right to blatantly disregard all cultural norms of our day? Not at all! In fact, many are rooted in Scripture. Consider, for example, treating women with dignity and respect. This might be opening doors, laying your jacket on a puddle, letting her enter a door first, or any number of things. There is a timeless truth behind these that is certainly rooted in Scripture. God created women in His image. He told us to love each other and treat each other well, i.e. like mothers, fathers, brothers, and sisters, etc. Our danger is in making the action itself the law thereby nullifying its spirit.


But what if someone is "offended" by a hat, pants, or whatever? Didn't Paul say that if eating meat causes my brother to stumble then he'd stop eating meat? Yes he did. However, we must not miss Paul's heart on the matter. Paul's strategy was to not offend the "weaker brother". Notice that while Paul did (or would) refrain from meat, he also continued to teach on the subject - that eating meat offered to an idol is not wrong. He sought to reveal the true heart of God to his brother. Remember, Paul spent quite a bit of time in his letters addressing rules and regulations of the day that were no longer binding. This was very offensive to many people but he continued to do so. I believe this is because true love seeks truth. It does not endorse ignorance, nor does it contentedly smile at our brother's weakness. So the balance is clear: We avoid causing our weaker brother to stumble but at the same time attempt to help them see the difference between God's ways and culture (where they differ).


Of course, that argument could also be reversed! What if someone is truly offended by not, say, being able to wear a hat, or pants, or whatever? Does this work the other way also? Would we then have to allow him to do so? I think one would be hard pressed to find a reason why not. But regardless, Paul's point is not that we stop doing anything that offends people. That would leave each us confined to isolation rooms. The point was for us to love those who were genuinely hindered. That's very different from someone who is just judgmental. And again, part of love is in leading to truth. So Paul would stop eating meat around that brother but at the same time continue to teach his brother that God is not offended by food but, rather, by what comes out of the heart.


Bottom line: I believe, for this generation, we must not press absolutes that are not Scriptural absolutes. We will hinder spiritual seeking and development if we do. Thankfully, the Scripture is chalked full of teachings that cultivate honor, respect, dignity, modesty, and reverence. Any time we tack on our own versions of what those these look like I think we head into dangerous territory.


Ultimately, it's about love. Love on both sides. Both trying their best to serve the other. Where this happens in sincerity and truth, God is honored.

So what's your thoughts?

It's in the Little Things

Did you ever notice that true quality is always to be found in the little things? That's a bit foreign to our Western mindset. Here it's primarily the "big" stuff that matters. It's the game-winning touchdown pass; the movie where the entire world is saved in two hours; the massive promotion to bigger and better things, etc.

Unfortunately, that's not reality. Quality is not primarily displayed in the game-winning touchdown pass but, rather, in the linemen effectively blocking play after play... in the countless gruelling hours in the gym and on the practice field... in the tedious and eye-straining study of game footage... If a team misses those things, game over!

The point is this: almost everybody is hopeful of living a quality life - One that is full of purpose and meaning. One that is fulfilling and full of joy. But the big secret is that this kind of life is found in the minutiae. It's the day to day. It's in the moment to moment. It's in the decision to decision. And to miss that is to miss even the opportunity for the "big" moments. In fact, your "big" moments will be nothing more than "big" disasters.

Here's a quick example:

Abram and Lot, his nephew, had a problem. There was not enough land for both to raise their flocks and herds so they decided to part. Abram gave Lot the choice of land and he chose the land near Sodom that looked so beautiful. Lot knew the evil that was occurring in Sodom but he chose instantaneous pleasure regardless. Sadly, this one simple decision set his course toward destruction. It was a bad decision based solely on greed and near-sightedness. He paid a terrible price for his decision - he suffered, his family suffered, and he lost everything.

It's in the small decisions. A wise man said, "...once our direction is set, our destination is also determined..."

May we be mindful of the "small" decisions we are making moment to moment. A good life is made up of a bunch of small, good decisions along the way.

To miss that is to miss everything.

The Question Seldom Confronted

Either God Is or He is not... Simple choice. One or the other. Can't have it both ways (although this is what the modern attempt at making all truth relative would have you believe).

Really think about the question before you answer. In fact, let's not answer in words. Let's use a different measurement to answer the question. How about the way we live...? That seems like the most accurate way to determine what we believe. Words...well, they can roll off the tongue and dissovle into nothingness in no time...but actions...well, that's a bit tougher to deny.

The Scripture, as well as nature, reveals a God who is smarter, stronger, and better than we can ever fathom. And yet He is revealed as a God who is present and active in His creation. A God who is concerned with my life. He hears. He protects. He provides. He disciplines. He has a plan that cannot be foiled or compromised. Etc.

So if that God does indeed exist, how would that affect me in my every day life? Certainly I could not journey through a normal day without having some massive repercussions to this reality. And yet, so many of us do just that. We live like the rest of the world. We work like the rest of the world. We dress like the world tells us. We play like the rest of the world.

The reality of God escapes us.

But if we dare answer the question in the affirmative, then that means God does hear and move on my prayers - that means I really can, and should, talk to Him. And if He did come to seek and save the broken, the poor, and the hurting - that might mean that I too should start looking for those same types of people to love on. If He will judge me on that final day - then I might need to start taking account now for every thought, word, and action...making sure they build people up and not tear them down. And if God is my Father, - then I might need to start loving myself more because He created me.

The point is this: actions always stem from what we believe. If your belief is wrong, you're actions will be as well... Or, if your beliefs are not real, the same holds true. Many of us, by our actions, contradict what our mouths confess. And we stay on this course because we seldom, if ever, wrestle with the reality of God - "out of sight, out of mind," we say. But that kind of thinking only lasts for short while. Reality can only be hidden for so long...

So, what's your answer? Is He or isn't He?